💔 The Hard Truth About Parenting: It’s Always the Parent’s Responsibility to Repair

This might trigger you… and that’s okay.
Because what I’m about to share isn’t meant to shame or blame—it’s meant to awaken. To bring you into deeper love, greater responsibility, and a more conscious connection with your child—no matter their age.

Take a deep breath, open your heart, and stay with me.

The sacred bond between parent and child is a relationship the parent is 100% responsible for creating, nurturing, and repairing.

Yes… 100%.

Let me say it in another way:
If you are a parent and you’re experiencing rupture or disconnection in your relationship with your child—whether they are 2 or 60—it is your sacred duty to be the one who initiates the healing. Not because you’re to blame, but because you are the one who created the relationship. You brought this soul earth-side. The weight and wonder of that responsibility belongs to you.

I believed this truth deeply even when I was just a daughter.
And now, as a mother, I feel it with every breath of my being.

My son is not responsible for the success of our relationship—I am.
Just as I am not responsible for the relationship with my parents.
The one who gives life also gives the container of connection.

Here’s why this matters: a child did not choose to be born.

At least, not their human ego. (We can explore the spiritual dimension of soul contracts another time…)

But from a grounded, earthly perspective—a child did not create themselves.

A mother and father brought this being into existence, and because they are the creators of that life, they are also the creators of that relationship.

As mothers and fathers, we co-created this soul, and with that comes the responsibility to co-create the space where love, safety, and trust can flourish. Most Importantly to repair it when it’s been wounded.

Every child—at any age—deeply desires connection with their parent. Even when they push away. Even when they rebel. Even when they cut ties.

And science backs this up:
Children who are abandoned, abused, or neglected still often carry a deep, lingering desire to be loved by their parents. Even after harm, the longing remains. And often, simultaneously, they must pull away in order to protect themselves.

This isn’t dysfunction. It’s biology. It’s survival. It’s a nervous system’s wisdom saying, “This hurts too much.”

So no, if your child is pulling away, I’m not saying you’re abusive or harmful. But I am saying:
The pull-away always comes from pain.
And it’s always an invitation for the parent to lean in—not with force or control—but with love, softness, safety, and unwavering presence.

What does repair look like?

It looks like not taking your child’s emotions personally.
It looks like staying rooted when your child tests your love.
It sounds like:

“It’s okay to be mad at Mommy.”
“You’re allowed to feel whatever you feel.”
“I still love you, no matter what you feel about me. I’m here whenever you’re ready.”

Every time you meet your child’s storm with defensiveness, anger, or shame—you widen the gap. Not because you’re a bad parent, but because the relationship wound deepens when we don’t respond in love.

Children test our love to feel safe.
They need to know, “Will you still love me when I’m messy? When I’m mad? When I’m not easy to love?”

This testing happens especially during toddlerhood, the teenage years, and again at times of major transition. These are initiations. Invitations to rise higher in your own embodiment of unconditional love.

Let’s be clear:

Whether your child is 2 or 60—you are the initiator, the holder, and the steward of the relationship.

From conception, the soul of your child is attuning to your presence, your safety, your love. Those early years lay the foundation for a lifetime.

The first 7 years of life are especially sacred. These are the years when your consistent love, your being-ness, your patience and presence literally shape their brain, their nervous system, their sense of self-worth.

And the first 18 years? They’re your divine opportunity to co-create a foundation so strong that your child always knows—no matter what happens, they can return to you.

After 18, the relationship shifts.
But it doesn’t end.
And how your child relates to you later in life will always reflect the way they felt with you during those formative years.
If you feel rejected or unseen by your adult child—it’s not personal, it’s a mirror. if you feel hurt, rejected, unloved, unwanted….. Its because thats how your parenting made them feel. This isn't to hurt you. its the sad reality... In any relationship the way we feel is also the way they feel.

But it’s not hopeless.
Because repair is always possible.
And it’s your sacred responsibility to begin that repair. To show up. To keep showing up. To lead with love, even when it hurts.

They may reject your efforts at first.
But if you’re consistent… if you’re genuine… if you continue to show up with softness, presence, and unconditional love…
It will heal.
Because the love is still there. They still long for you—just like you long for them.

This is why I’ve devoted my life to early childhood, conscious parenting, and spiritual motherhood.

Because those first 7 years? They matter. Deeply.
Because the way we show up as mothers now… echoes through generations.

And so, I lovingly invite you, if you are a mama with a child under 7, to join me on April 27th for my sacred workshop:

✨ Be Here Now, Mama: The Sacred Mission of the First 7 Years ✨

We’ll dive into:

• Early childhood brain and emotional development

• What it means to be there

• Conscious parenting in a chaotic world

• Nervous system safety, love, and repair

• And the legacy you’re building without even knowing it

If your child is over 7, you’re still welcome. This is for any parent who desires to understand, love deeper, and perhaps… begin again.

And if your child is grown and you’re feeling the ache of disconnection, this isn’t too late. Repair is always possible. Love never runs out.

Reach out to me if you’re ready to begin again. I’m here to walk beside you.

Because they love you as much as you love them.
And deep down, they want a relationship with you, too. 💞

Let’s raise a generation of hearts that know safety, truth, and higher love.
Let’s heal the lines behind and ahead of us.
It begins with you.

With love,
Genna Rose 💗

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